Our blood boils when we do not get what we want. When you become furious with someone, that is because they have withheld or disrespected something you value more than them. We love our idols more than men and women created in the image of God.
When you lash out at someone for scratching your new car, you demonstrate that cars are more valuable to you than humans. When you seethe and snort at someone for being ten minutes late, you love punctuality more than people.
Now, there is certainly such a thing as righteous anger. However, a drink laced with poison is just poison. Likewise, anger laced with hatred is just hatred, and hatred is murder in God’s eyes. If your wrath bubbles up and your ears whistle for any reason other than the glory of God dishonored, then it is hatred that needs to be repented of.
God has commanded us to love our neighbors. When we allow our fury to flash or fester, we betray the fact that we would rather cling to our idols than obey God’s commands. The next time you feel like shouting profanities, ask yourself, “can I say this and praise God in the same breath?”
“What is the source of quarrels and conflicts among you? Is not the source your pleasures that wage war in your members? You lust and do not have; so you commit murder. You are envious and cannot obtain; so you fight and quarrel…” (James 4:1-2a NASB)